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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Update...

Well, I don't blog much anymore because I've lost a lot of my anonymity and don't really want to write much of what I feel knowing people I know may read it. In short, I have marital problems, I suffer from depression that is under control but that does bring about some very bad days, and my kids have issues like all kids do. Oh, and I have issues, too. And I really appreciate the friends who have emailed with concerns. I working on myself, I promise.

Cookie is having more and more behavioral problems. Whoever coined the term "terrible twos" should be properly bitch-slapped. They lied. 3s are much worse. Couple that with a smart child, and you have one helluva backtalking princess/witch. She's really sweet and breathtakingly intelligent and articulate. She is also constantly in motion much of the time and has to have challenges to work on to keep her satisfied. She wears me out (of course, being 38 and out of shape does not help). Oh, and please don't respond with diagnoses for her - I really don't want them. It won't hurt our friendship, but it will piss me off and then I will cuss. And I'm working on not cussing before noon.

Bit-Bit has herpes. It's pretty crappy when the doctor says "Your daughter has herpes." Thank God this is the oral kind that most all of us have. Just most of us never experience a primary outbreak like this, and not many of us get a mouthful of sores. She is one unhappy camper. She turns two next month, and still weighs just shy of 25 pounds and is quite small. Bit-Bit still fits her moniker. She says lots of 1-word statements, and is quite nonverbally expressive. You can have an entire conversation with her - she just won't use sentences.

We are fostering kittens for the Humane Society because dumb-asses dropped off 31 kittens in the middle of the night a couple weeks ago, and the call went out to all who had fostered before to please re-up. So we got 3. They are stinky, and fuzzy, and cute, but I am not ready for them to go back. Mia loves the heck out of them and always wants them in bed with her. But she knows we are just fostering, and they they are not for keeps. I am gonna be strong on that. Correction - my allergies are gonna be strong on that.

I've been sick for months with recurrent sinus infections, bronchitis, and secondary infections that have made it tough to breathe. I've also hurt my back with all the coughing. I'm finishing a round of pretty tough and expensive antibiotics now, so I hope this will kill whatever has invaded me.

My BFF is moving here in less than a month to start on her PhD this fall. She's getting a cute apartment pretty close to the house, so the girls will have Auntie Megan around which makes me very, very happy. And it will be great for me, too. I missed having a great friend that lives in the same city. I don't make friends easily. I think I'm at the age where that is pretty tough. Also, I don't like weird people and prefer relatively sane ones so friend-making is not my forte.

I've created a new blog site on wordpress but haven't written anything yet. It will likely be a very mouthy hard-core brutally honest look at marriage, sex, life, parenting, and the sorts. If you'd like the addy, please leave an email in the comments section. I'll delete the comments to keep your emails private. Oh, and if you're someone I see on a rather regular basis IRL, please - no offense, I'd just rather this blog be for my blog-buddies eyes only so I can keep it quasi-anonymous and cuss and rant and self-disclose to the Nth degree.

Cheers! Tamara

38 comments:

Llyn said...

Hi Tamara!

I've been following your blog for ages, and would love to follow you to your new site. My e-mail is circleolife@gmail.com.

Thanks, and I'm happy to hear you'll soon have a friend living close by!

Lynn

ToBeMe said...

cizinjessica@yahoo.com

Mom said...

me tooo....

franticteacher@yahoo.com

motherissues said...

I'd like to keep reading and will email you with more. My email is motherissues@gmail.com

Julie said...

Me- too- I am sorry/glad to hear about Cookie's attitude- G is the same way- :( I am glad I am not alone- I sorta already knew that as there is a guy at work who has the same issue with his 3 yr old. Man- i have to stay on top of her about being mean and snotty. ARGH!
you know i want the new address- ohjul@ohjul.com

FosterAbba said...

I'd like to read! fosterabba@gmail.com

Sorry things are so tough right now.

Canicas said...

I'd love to read your new blog: canicas at hotmail dot com.

Patience said...

Hi,

I would like to be added to your blog. I've read all your archives and it was really helpful as we are preparing to fost/adopt.

Patience

patience.anne@gmail.com

Whitney said...

link please!

milkgoats@gmail.com

Kellie said...

I'd like to keep reading too.
kfc1206 at charter dot net

Amanda said...

I also join the chorus of admiring readers. I *so* appreciate your honesty and would love to keep reading.

Amanda said...

oh yeah, and here's my freakin' email

ladyjane1202@yahoo.com

MLWilson080 said...

I'd give you my email, but 1) you already have it; 2) we talk almost daily, so I'm sure there's not much going on that blog I won't already talk to you about (since we talk about everything anyway and have both seen each other at our worst AND best); and 3) I'm moving to Lexington in 2 weeks and doubt the girls will let me go more than a few days without seeing you guys. So, all this is to say, my dear BFF, that I LOVE YOU, am so excited to be so close again, and no matter how brutally honest you are, you will ALWAYS be precious to me! LOVE YOU BIG

Sian said...

I've been following your blog for years now and would like to keep following it. sian dot westall at gmail dot com

Micky said...

I have followed your blog for a while now and I have commented here and there.

My email is mniel64@aol.com

Debbie said...

Hi Tamara

I have been following your blog for yonks and would love to follow your new blog. You certainbly do not know me IRL as I live in the UK!

Thanks and my email address is thestotherts@gmail.com

Debbie

TeamWinks said...

May I please have the address? Becky

rebeccamwinks@yahoo.com

Leah W said...

hi, i have been following your blog for quite a while and love it :)

haelww@comcast.net

In Due Time said...

Hey I would love to follow you (again!) My email addy is on my blog on the left side.

♥ ya.

Overwhelmed! said...

I'd like the addy for your new blog.

Here's my email: adoptive_mom_1@yahoo.com.

Kris said...

Love your blog - would like to keep following. kris_ekeren@hotmail.com

mom to three great kids said...

I'd love the chance to keep reading your blog...My e-mail is Ldsabkow@videotron.ca

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Marthavmuffin said...

Wow you have a lot of followers! Add me to the list: marthavmuffin@yahoo.com

I'm sorry life is tough for you right now. I too have a 3 yr old witch princess, it's such a challenge and a delight all rolled into one package.

When will the new blog start?

Molly C said...

me please! roneydapony@aol.com

Runergirl said...

runergirl@gmail.com

My son was a saint at 2, but when he turned four he was hell on wheels!!! Lots of love and luck!

Robin

JUST A MOM said...

OMGosh 27 comments look at you missy,, YES 3's SUCK big time I ahve always not liked 3's.. did I not tell you that. I love 2's it is 3's I hate.. Sorry bout the marriage thing,, I am single after 30 YEARS,,,not much I can say bout that one. my kitties are living on the border line of being dropped off in foster care them selves.. HALF KIDDING.... so if I can please add me to your list ok.... giddyupgoj@aol.com



Hang in there and TRY and destress... enjoy a little piece of each day. SO glad your BFF is moving closer, wish mine was.

michelle said...

elske4@comcast.net

megan said...

I would love the new addy my email is erniesmomma@hotmail.com

FosterMom said...

I haven't checked in a nd read you blog in a little while, but I'd love to see your new blog. I am at fostermomwa@comcast.net Thanks!

JUST A MOM said...

and things are???......

Canicas said...

I'd love to follow your new blog: canicas at hotmail dot com.

JUST A MOM said...

I think you need another update,,, hope all is well with you.

Marthavmuffin said...

My 2nd request...see someone came from my blog from here recently. Was it you? How are things, please email me even if you have no new blog.

tomsgirl1197 said...

Are you still blogging? I know it's been a couple of years, but I love how honest youa re, and would love to keep reading. tomsgirl1197@yahoo.com. We are just finishing up our HS and waiting to be matched for foster to adopt. Hope things are better for you!! I have been reading your past posts for an hour now and really need to shower, lol!!

Wonder File said...

I have followed your blog for a while now and I have commented here and there.Press Dough

Thanks for post.

Melissa&Joel said...

I found your blog via the forums on adoption.com when I was looking for information about foster care adoption. Sounds like it's been quite the adventure!

I'd love to read your new blog, if you're still blogging.

- Melissa